Hey there, and welcome to a site that can truly help you to get some feel-great changes into your life.
I’m Sandy Ross, a holistic counsellor and coach based in Australia but working with women around the world creating a *rocking* body image revolution!
And we soooo need it! It terrifies me that studies say 94% of women want to change something about their bodies, and that 98% of women will speak cruelly to their bodies many times each day.
The feelings we have about our bodies are summed up in a tidy clinical little phrase:
negative body image.
But it says nothing about the pain you feel, the lack of worth you feel, the desperation you feel.
I know that women working together can do *any* thing! Some of the ways this site could help you are:
- share information about what is really natural, normal, and healthy for women’s bodies – much of what we’ve believed over the years is great for corporations who want to sell us stuff, and not at all great for our health and wellbeing – or our wallets!
- make available learning products to help you dump what doesn’t work for you, and find what does support you, at very affordable prices
- bring balance to the control-your-weight, beat-your-body noise that is filling the world and messing with our heads
- offer a place of complete support that holds a vision of what is possible for you and for women as we shift to the new feminine age
Because starving, self-loathing women are not who they could be, are not doing what they could be doing, are not helping make this a world where all our children will thrive.
So ultimately, this site is about helping each woman choose who she wants to be, with solid truthful information and practical tools to support you as you makes the changes you want.
Together, one woman, one thought, one action at a time, we CAN change this, we MUST change this.
Yes I’m an idealist, you’ve got to have a dream
I grew up in South Africa. I was a really skinny kid – and guess what? My nickname was “Skinny”.
I know, original right? Some family friends had an extra special name for me – “Bones”. (Hey – maybe that’s why I like Star Trek so much? )
I was a real tomboy too, the youngest and only girl of three – probably no surprise I was a tomboy too! I really never liked ribbons and frills and bows – whooping around and climbing trees was more my thing. Then I learned to read and oh my the worlds that opened up for me…
I think that’s when I realised that no matter what challenges came up in life, someone had done it before and written about it. The library became one of my favourite places on the planet.
I also loved technology though – my dad owned a motor racing team and for years every weekend was at a different race track somewhere around the country. Other times I was grinding valves or helping to polish a newly-minted fibreglass racing shell.
Imagine my shock then when I started to turn into a *girl*! It seemed to happen really fast too – so fast in fact I developed stretch marks in what I now know are the usual places, I was horrified!
And my male friends started to look at me differently. Wasn’t too keen on that but I was shipped off to an all-girls’ boarding school around that time anyway where I really learned to be self-critical about my body.
The lamenting about changing bodies or bodies not changing fast enough was really painful. But we all just joined in and no one ever thought there was a thing wrong with doing it. Our mothers and sisters and aunts and friends at home were all doing it too.
That set the pattern I lived for most of my life. Years when I moved to the UK then to Australia (Aussie boy, the marrying kind ), went to University (hello journalism), got married, worked on a newspaper, had beautiful babies, worked in PR, found my way back to technology and the internet, combined journalism and PR and technology to learn about internet marketing, and one day decided to step away from the computer and learn more about people – I went back to school to become a counsellor.
I know right – a little bit different
Mostly of course I learned about moi, and started to heal things I didn’t know were broken, and parts of me that really were – like the endless body criticism that was so ‘normal’ for me but that was really painful and truly life-limiting to live with! I broke away from endless diets, gave up punishing myself for not being a perfect physical specimen, and discovered my passion: breaking the misery of negative body image and transforming it into kindness, respect, and amazing lives
And here I am today, using technology and the amazing wonders of the internet to reach out to woman all over the world who are also ready to give themselves some kindness and respect, and hopefully inject some of my passion into their lives.
I love my work
I hope you do too!
PS: You read all the way – impressive Feel free to contact me to ask anything.