One Way To Stop Body Snarking

I was thinking about my mirrors post of a couple of days ago, and how it was years before I could look in a mirror, or at a photograph, without wincing in disapproval and disappointment at my body’s size or shape at the time.

Many women report the same thing. One of the ways they cope with it is to become the family photographer, snapping away at their loved ones at all times of the day or night – having the camera in their hand is the perfect excuse to not appear in photographs themselves.

Last year during The Body Image Revolution I spoke with the inspirational artist Cheryl Ann Webster, who created the Beautiful Woman Project. And thinking about all the photographs of my life, where I was holding the camera, reminded me of one of Cheryl Ann’s tips for moving towards a more positive body image.

This is how to stop snarking at your body

She suggests you find a photograph of yourself as a very young child, maybe 2 years old, one that you really like.

Carry that photograph in your wallet.

And every time you notice that you’re snarking at your body, judging some part of yourself, take out the photograph and say that same thing to that small trusting wide-open child who was you.

It’s probably very difficult to say, because the truth is, most of us would not speak that kind of nastiness to a small child.

And yet, we forget that that small child is still with us, still being hurt by our own words of judgement and body snarking.

And of course, I would always recommend tapping to overcome any feelings you might have around this exercise. If you’d like to know how that might go, leave a comment below, if I get ten comments I’ll write up a tapping script…


  1. Kama on January 16, 2011 at 9:28 am

    That’s a great idea! I have noticed myself being very harsh about myself and I am working on trying to find something positive to say or not commenting at all. Seeing myself as the child could help break this nasty habit.

    • Sandy on January 16, 2011 at 10:50 am

      @Kama, would love to hear how you go 🙂

    • susan on April 20, 2013 at 12:15 pm

      I’m sure it will! treat

  2. susan on April 20, 2013 at 12:13 pm

    Hi Sandy,
    I have a wonderful school picture of myself as second grader. I have a beautiful silver gift box wrapped with pink ribbon and a nice pink rose topping the gift box. One day, about 18 months ago, I was inspired to slide that second grade photo under the ribbon on top of the gift box. I see this box at least six or seven times a week and it always cause to smile a really big smile. Tonight as I write this I intuit that I am a gift I give myself, and that the sweet little second grader is inside me yet, coming out to play anytime I wish. Thanks again for promoting intuiting. Love reading your blog.


    • Sandy on April 20, 2013 at 12:25 pm

      Susan that’s gorgeous 🙂 Do you send her some love too? Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  3. Anon on April 20, 2013 at 4:56 pm

    Now that is a great idea! Thankfully now I’m in a much better place in terms of body image, but I still get those days of just loathing what I see in the mirror. I can definitely see this tip working for me, thanks for sharing!

    • Sandy on April 20, 2013 at 5:12 pm

      It really worked for me, I was such a cute kid 😀 You’re welcome, thanks for reading 🙂

  4. Andrea Bachmann on April 21, 2013 at 3:45 am

    Sandy, thanks for sharing this again. I completely forgot to mention this one in my book about body image 🙂 But guess what: I am going to apply it to my current issues with being too hard on my self while building up my business. All the kind of “you are not doing enough work to make this and that happen…lazy you!” Would I say that to cute little Andrea? No way. She needs encouragement and fun. So I’m gonna give that to her (eq. to myself).
    Feel free to copy and paste that! 🙂
    Big hug, Andrea

    • Sandy on April 21, 2013 at 5:06 am

      Hey Andrea 🙂 What a great idea – we can be kind to ourselves in everything! And maybe it’s a start for the next book? 😉

  5. Jordan on November 4, 2013 at 12:27 pm

    This is a great idea to make us think that what we are saying is really affecting us in a unhealthy way. If people keep on saying these things then they might fall into depression or something worse.

    • Sandy on November 11, 2013 at 7:51 pm

      Yup. And it’s the negative self-talk that is so damaging to self-worth.

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