You, lovely woman, gorgeous soul, graceful spirit, are not here to please anyone but yourself.
You are not here to work your ass off in whatever job you’re doing so you can afford this season’s “must have” fashion look, miracle anti-wrinkle serum, to hit the salon every six weeks to cover your dark or grey roots, or body-bashing cosmetic surgery treatment.
You’re not, I promise.
You’re also not here to please anyone else, male or female.
You’re not here to have a body that you have to “work on”, “perfect” or control in any way, for the approval of anyone else.
If your lover says your stretchmarks don’t bother them, believe them. If you think they’re lying to you to make you feel better, accept that as the act of love it is.
If your lover is a bloke, he probably means it – blokes are a bit dense about that stuff you know? They truly DON’T see our “imperfections” the way we do.
Blokes see cellulite and they might think “Oh, cellulite”. That’s all – like “Oh, blue sky”.
It doesn’t mean anything about how much you deserve to be loved.
It means “Oh, cellulite”.
Same with stretch marks, wrinkles, grey hair, freckles, moles, extra rolls of fat or any bones that might be prominent.
They’re just stretch marks, wrinkles, hair, freckles, moles, fat or bones.
None of these things are YOU.
They are a natural normal part of having a human body.
Human bodies are meant to be different, amazing, wonderful, diverse. That’s how they are.
Having a human body that isn’t like the ones you see in the magazines, up on billboards, in shop windows or on every screen doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you, lovely.
It means that the people who put the advertising together prefer that body type. They prefer to find women who sortakinda look that way (less than 1% of women are built like models).
They are carefully made up by experts…
photographed by experts in environments where the light is carefully changed to hide ‘imperfections’….
they have the crap photoshopped out of their amazingly perfect-looking images, by experts.
Start thinking about this:
- the images you see are not real
- the images you see are a fantasy
- they are a projection of someone who probably wishes they look like that fantasy
- even the woman who is in the image doesn’t look that way in real life
You are not a fantasy.
You are here, now, on this planet, in this time, to do something amazing (even if you don’t quite know what that is yet).
You are real my lovely.
The images of women all around us are fantasy.
Remind yourself of that every time you see one.
Your body is unique.
It can heal from devastating injury and debilitating illness.
It can make another whole human being.
It carries your spirit through your life so you can fulfil your purpose.
It doesn’t exist to live anyone else’s purpose but yours.
If you have been treating your body in ways that don’t feel good, but are designed to get you closer to the Cult of Hotness look, you can stop doing that.
Honestly I’m Not Sure I’m Making Sense
What I want you to know though lovely one, is that you are enough.
You are enough.
Just the way you are.
Mother Nature did not make a mistake with your, no matter what the magazines, TV shows or mannequins in the local shops say.
You are good enough.
When you finally feel that, you choose nourishing food. You move your body in ways that feel great. You get enough sleep. You listen to your body and give it was it needs – a cup of tea, a good stretch, time with a friend.
You just are. You can just be.
You owe yourself that….
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