I’ve had an interesting week or so reading various body image related stories in various media and a few have really stuck in my mind where they’re stewing. Could be of course that I see things through a body image related lens, but I figure it’s better than a body hating lens 🙂
Though in reality, they’re all the result of the body-hating lens so tightly focussed on women – anyhoo see what you think, maybe I’m just over-reacting? I’m so steamed up that I can hardly think clearly, actually….
Women, Alcohol and Sex
The first thing I came across was an older article – found a link somewhere, you know how it goes – about research done with around 3000 women around alcohol and sex. Specifically, most women seem to need to be at least partly tanked before they’ll have sex, even with their husbands.
The reason most gave is that the booze helps them relax around how they think their hubby feels about their bodies.
How Young is Too Young for Botox?
The second thing was the incredibly sad story of the mother of an eight year old who enters her daughter in those kiddy pageants – she expects her daughter to become an actress or model when she’s older.
To help her ‘prevent wrinkles’ the mother – a trained beautician – gives her ‘virgin waxes’ to stop that nasty hair growing where the beauty industry says we women don’t want it, and……….. botox injections to prevent wrinkles.
And the worst thing, like inflicting pain by ripping hairs out of all that tender skin and injecting your child with poison are not enough all on their own, is that she says ‘everyone is doing it’.
Are you still with me? Still breathing? Or am I hyperventilating and spluttering all by myself?
How Young Is Too Young For Push-Up Bras?
The third thing was that a US retailer is advertising it’s northern summer swimwear line, including for kids, and one of their offerings is – wait for it – a padded push up triangle bikini for seven year old girls.
It’s a few days since I read that and it still pushes chills up and down my body.
WHAT are Abercrombie THINKING???
In what WAY is it okay to put a padded push up ANYTHING on a seven year old child?
To me that verges on criminal and I’d be seriously questioning either the motivation or sanity or both, of the store’s buyers.
Are they paedophiles, or do they just see the true value of women as sexual only or are they like the mother mentioned above, or just thoughtless and seeing the bikinis as a dressup?
How Young is Too Young To Diet?
The fourth thing was the recent study which revealed that 14% of five year old girls are dieting.
5 year olds.
See, they don’t belong in the same sentence, like oil and water, it’s surely not possible that they can mix?
And 14% is a significant number.
Not as significant as the fact that half of all 9 years old girls diet.
EIGHTY percent of ten year olds diet.
And NINETY percent of girls in high school diet regularly, and only 20% of those have BMIs that anyone might care about.
That Was The Week….
That’s just a snapshot from one single week, one single woman’s reading of the media.
I’m sure there’s a LOT more out there that I didn’t read.
So – do you think I’m just over-reacting when I say our children are suffering unbelievably, are showing the damage we never knew would happen, when we started down the path of this painful body obsession?
Consider that 42% of girls in grades 1 – 3 would like to be thinner than they are.
Because they already have picked up from the world around them that thin or thinner than thin, is the most important thing a woman must aspire to achieve. We’re barely conscious that we’re a separate being in Grade 1, our brains are still in wide-open theta state, ready to be programmed with all these body-changing messages, and programmed we are being!
This is tragic.
Our great-grandmothers who fought so hard for us to be able to own property, earn and keep money doing honest work of our choice, have rights over our children and our own bodies, would be weeping in their graves.
The next time you see something that is outrageous that will damage our kids, consider that someone – maybe you – needs to say something about.
And if you want to improve your own body image, consider the body image course on this site. I know one woman at a time we can change this…..