This is How You Love Your Body!

I’ve spent many hours in the last couple of weeks doing some research for an upcoming love your body project ( The research has taken me on a ride through some amazing blogs, books, and hearts of women all over the planet, struggling with negative body image issues.

What I get from the posts is that everyone writing is more than sick of the misinformation about health and weight, and well over the pressure to be thin and perfect that comes from every kind of media.

I’m still astonished though at how many people buy the “everyone knows” lines of eat less and exercise more, and you’ll be thin. And if you’re not, you’re weak, greedy, lazy, and undisciplined – and just plain bad. (After all, we know that women’s bodies are just commodities to be managed, manipulated and traded so that someone can profit. Usually not the woman who is the current commodity.)

I wonder why people still believe that stuff?

I guess it’s easier to succumb to the noise of profit-driven misinformation than it is to spend a little time to dig for some truths; saves all that pesky thinking.

Still, I guess we don’t know what we don’t know.

And maybe it’s also a good excuse for not getting on with your life – you can’t because your body’s not perfect and you don’t love your body yet, so you don’t deserve to do anything fun, useful, and dream-driven.

Here’s the sad truth – you’ll NEVER be perfect, you’re human.

We’re not perfect. It’s part of the job description 🙂

So one of the blogs I found this morning is one I didn’t think I’d like, because it’s by a young woman on a weight-loss quest, and if you’ve been at this blog before you’ll know that I’m pro-health and anti-diet. What really touched me though was her ability to take her courage in both hands, get in front of a camera in her undies, and then caption all the parts of her imperfect human body with the reasons she loves those parts.

I found myself smiling at the courage of this young woman’s courage, and feeling optimistic that we really are seeing a shift.

Then later I found a blog by a woman who is really working hard to drop a big amount of body fat. She is very active, runs marathons, and was having a bad body image day. I read her post, and the comments that followed, by dozens of women who were also all having bad body image days, weeks, months, or lives.

I wanted to leave a comment that said – come over here, try the ten day course, it probably will help you feel better, it might help you see yourself in a whole new way, get you started on easing up on yourself… but I didn’t, I felt so out of step with that whole way of thinking, feeling, being…. it quite distressed and depressed me for a few minutes.

So I closed the tab and saw lovely brave Mary in her undies, loving everything her body did for her in her life.

I’m not sure I’m brave enough to get myself in my undies on this (or any other!) site, it will take some thinking about I think 🙂 But if you want to applaud a real woman’s courage to acknowledge the power and beauty of her body, go do it here.

Before you go though, I’m not sure how you got here but I’d like to say good on you for questioning the mainstream dieting and health information, and I hope you find what you’re looking for. If you’d like to leave a comment or ask a question, please do – we’re all in this together and we can change our bloody awful cultural anorexic thinking. And you can join in the thought shift at The Body Image Revolution.


  1. Kimberly on June 4, 2010 at 12:52 am

    It was so nice of you to stop by my site. I love yours as well. It is truly a shame that women still fall victim to wanting a perfect body. Life would be so much more fun if we could all just get out of our own way.
    .-= Kimberly´s last blog ..How 5 Simple Tips Can Take You from Feeling Body BLAH to Body WOW in the Bedroom =-.

    • Sandy on June 4, 2010 at 2:50 am

      Hi Kimberly – I’ve kind of taken a back seat on this blog for most of 2009 and a bit of 2010, as another business took my time and attention – I’ve just sold my share of that and am now back to my passion and I can’t believe how many new blogs are around that weren’t around when I last looked in late 2008. Or maybe they’re just easier to find 🙂 Whichever, it’s all good because I think there’s a real shift underway, so good to see and be part of 🙂 Thanks you too for stopping by 🙂

  2. Mary (A Merry Life) on June 4, 2010 at 6:49 pm

    I’m glad you liked my blog even though you didn’t think you would. I’m not on a diet but am myself trying to be healthier through eating better and exercising. Yes I’m trying to lose weight but if you take the time to read my blog you’d realize it’s more than just about weight loss. I’m not trying to be super skinny, that’s never been my goal. But I’m trying to become healthier, to shed the weight doctors have told me to lose so that I can live a longer and healthier life. I hate anorexia and the cultural thinking that we all must be thin, but it’s definitely a valid point to be losing weight because you need to. Just thought I’d throw that out there. 😉
    .-= Mary (A Merry Life)´s last blog ..The Basics Of Operation Sexification =-.

    • Sandy on June 5, 2010 at 9:34 pm

      Hi Mary – see, your honesty and integrity about making healthy choices instead of faddish ones, come through in all your writing and even converted a weightloss sceptic like me 🙂 You’re doing the hard thing, making decisions that will improve your life and health and everything else, in the long term. I’m on a similar journey myself, and it’s an every day thing isn’t it, specially when the world seems to think that losing weight should be the primary focus of nearly every person on the planet – well in the western world anyway 🙂 You’re a beacon of what’s possible, and I hope you get lots of links over from here 🙂

      Sandy 🙂

  3. britt1 on October 3, 2010 at 4:20 pm

    Very brave person she is. So do you think that as we become more accepting we won`t care what others think?

    • Sandy on October 5, 2010 at 4:15 am

      I know it 🙂 Also though, as we become more accepting of our bodies we become less obsessed with how badly we measure up – and life gets more interesting because we release a lot of energy to focus on other things 🙂

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