I’ve spent many hours in the last couple of weeks doing some research for an upcoming love your body project (www.thebodyimagerevolution.com). The research has taken me on a ride through some amazing blogs, books, and hearts of women all over the planet, struggling with negative body image issues.
What I get from the posts is that everyone writing is more than sick of the misinformation about health and weight, and well over the pressure to be thin and perfect that comes from every kind of media.
I’m still astonished though at how many people buy the “everyone knows” lines of eat less and exercise more, and you’ll be thin. And if you’re not, you’re weak, greedy, lazy, and undisciplined – and just plain bad. (After all, we know that women’s bodies are just commodities to be managed, manipulated and traded so that someone can profit. Usually not the woman who is the current commodity.)
I wonder why people still believe that stuff?
I guess it’s easier to succumb to the noise of profit-driven misinformation than it is to spend a little time to dig for some truths; saves all that pesky thinking.
Still, I guess we don’t know what we don’t know.
And maybe it’s also a good excuse for not getting on with your life – you can’t because your body’s not perfect and you don’t love your body yet, so you don’t deserve to do anything fun, useful, and dream-driven.
Here’s the sad truth – you’ll NEVER be perfect, you’re human.
We’re not perfect. It’s part of the job description 🙂
So one of the blogs I found this morning is one I didn’t think I’d like, because it’s by a young woman on a weight-loss quest, and if you’ve been at this blog before you’ll know that I’m pro-health and anti-diet. What really touched me though was her ability to take her courage in both hands, get in front of a camera in her undies, and then caption all the parts of her imperfect human body with the reasons she loves those parts.
I found myself smiling at the courage of this young woman’s courage, and feeling optimistic that we really are seeing a shift.
Then later I found a blog by a woman who is really working hard to drop a big amount of body fat. She is very active, runs marathons, and was having a bad body image day. I read her post, and the comments that followed, by dozens of women who were also all having bad body image days, weeks, months, or lives.
I wanted to leave a comment that said – come over here, try the ten day course, it probably will help you feel better, it might help you see yourself in a whole new way, get you started on easing up on yourself… but I didn’t, I felt so out of step with that whole way of thinking, feeling, being…. it quite distressed and depressed me for a few minutes.
So I closed the tab and saw lovely brave Mary in her undies, loving everything her body did for her in her life.
I’m not sure I’m brave enough to get myself in my undies on this (or any other!) site, it will take some thinking about I think 🙂 But if you want to applaud a real woman’s courage to acknowledge the power and beauty of her body, go do it here.
Before you go though, I’m not sure how you got here but I’d like to say good on you for questioning the mainstream dieting and health information, and I hope you find what you’re looking for. If you’d like to leave a comment or ask a question, please do – we’re all in this together and we can change our bloody awful cultural anorexic thinking. And you can join in the thought shift at The Body Image Revolution.