I’m just reading Pat Ballard’s lovely book, 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are)< Each of her ten steps are just a page or two long, and backed up by relevant quotes and discussions – really nice, a light, positive read.
One of her quotes comes from Heather Locklear:
“When I look in the mirror I see the girl I was growing up, with braces, crooked teeth, a baby face and a skinny body.”
In psych-speak, when this view of the self is at its most extreme, it’s called body dysmoprhic disorder – BDD. As many as 2 in every 100 people suffer from it – men as well as women! Treatment includes anti-depressants and CBT. Plus many sufferers have plastic surgery which doesn’t fix the problem anyway, because what’s really going on is a thought distortion.
Or is it? It occurs to me that what’s really going on is an energy disortion – which of course is all a thought is anyway. As Gary Craig says, the cause of all problems is a short-circuit in the body’s energy system. Who knows where the original distortion came from – a much-loved brother saying “you’r ugly now, four-eyes”, or mother sayind “you’ll never be pretty if you don’t get your teeth fixed”, or something else. The realisation that that one particular thing makes you unacceptable is a shock that courses through the body, and so begins this emotional tumoil that endlessly disrupts life.
Body image dissatisfaction is not as severe as BDD, and yet it causes massive life disruptions. Many many women don’t do what they’d like to be doing, go where they’d like to go, see who they’d like to see, because they’re not thin enough, not pretty enough, not perfect enough. Whether they are any of these things or not is not the real isssue anyway – what matters is that they FEEL it’s the real issue.
My favourite energy therapy is EFT, and I’d start working with a client on this issue by listing the thoughts they’re having, identifying which is the strongest, and defusing it with EFT. Then go on to the next, and so on. Much quicker than CBT in my experience, much less painful, and gives you your life back!
So if you’re having any negative thoughts at all about any part of your body, whether you’re Heather Locklear or not :), give EFTa go….