Better Body Image

The negative body image business is worth big bucks.

Each year hundreds of billions of dollars are spent by women around the world, convinced by “solution providers” to buy a product to make us feel better about ourselves.

But the business of body image has nothing at all to do with what your body or mine actually looks like.

Rather, the business actually manipulates how you feel and what you believe about the way your body ‘should’ look – and the result is negative body image!

Those feelings and beliefs affect every part of your life: your relationships, ambitions, family, wealth and career, even what you do every day.

And the messages you get from those solution providers are never-ending – we see thousands of perfect bodies everywhere, advertising everything, subtly telling us that to be successful we need to at least try to meet that standard of beauty.

Of course, only about 1% of the world’s women look like supermodels. And at least some supermodels are also unhappy with how they look!

After years of bombardment, is it any wonder that nearly 94% of western women have a negative body image, want to change something about their body, and over 80% actively dislike their body? Is it any wonder that we volunteer to go under the *knife*? That’s assault, ladies! And we are choosing it!

What’s wrong with this picture?!

What’s going on, that women are now valued in a one-dimensional way only – for their looks.

And I need to say, it’s usually not men who value women that way, it’s we women who think so badly of ourselves that we literally torture ourselves to conform to an image that’s not even real.

Perhaps it’s because we women are basically hard-wired to want to connect with others. When we are not able to connect, or feel like we might not be able to connect – we feel anxious, and the solution providers know this. They manipulate us into a state of anxiety, and then sell us the solution to ease the feeling. Little girls, as young as five years old, are being treated for anorexia and bulimia. They are so scared of not fitting in that they are starving themselves.

Except of course in the case of diets, it doesn’t work. So then they blame us for the failure – we didn’t try hard enough, we did it wrong, we didn’t use our willpower. Try this new program, maybe this one will work for you?

Bollocks, is what I say.

If we all just relaxed about the size of our bodies, loved and accepted our bodies for the marvellous miraculous bio-suits for our souls that they are, and appreciated all the incredible experiences we can have in this bio-suit, and treated our bodies as though we actually did love and appreciate them, rather than nag or beat them into submission, we’d all be gorgeous.

Because attitude is what it’s all about, not the size of your bum or your bra.

Valuing yourself, recognising your worth as a person, seeing your beauty as the people who love you see it, is the only solution. The stuff the solution providers sell can help tweak your feelings, help you present your best self because that’s what you like doing – not because you feel you must!

Having a strong robust view of yourself and your body image is about taking responsibility for what you let into your mind and your emotional body. Eat good health-giving food, read good health-enhancing books and mags, and most of all – clean out the emotional junk you (like the rest of us :) ) have collected your whole life. The ten day Body Bliss 101 course I offer is a great starting point to heal body image issues.

Let’s get the body image stuff done, and out of your life so you can just move on and start living baby!!


  1. Brittany on September 21, 2010 at 1:09 pm

    What does bullocks mean ? I agree wholeheartly with you.

    • Sandy on September 23, 2010 at 8:49 pm

      Essentially, it means ‘garbage’ 🙂

      • britt1 on October 3, 2010 at 4:04 pm

        Thanks Sandy. I`m trying to re -register . I can`t get to my comments before to add some more comments. I really am angry about our unequal status in society. Wanted to hear other comments from different views.

  2. Naomi on October 1, 2010 at 9:12 am

    I think that you are doing a great job with this website and that some people like to have others
    reassure them about themselves and i think that is exactly what you are doing. reassuring people is sometims really hard to do but after reading what you have written i Know that you are really good at it and that you should keep on doing it
    And like Brittany said I agree wholeheartedly
    Keep up the great work and good luck!!

    • Sandy on October 1, 2010 at 10:22 pm

      Thanks Naomi, I hope you try the ten day course and see how it helps you. 🙂 ~Sandy

    • britt1 on October 3, 2010 at 4:04 pm

      Thanks Naomi.

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  5. BODblogger on October 6, 2010 at 7:54 pm

    First off, I would like to say that I fell in love with you blog when you used the word “bollocks.” I strongly believe that the word should be integrated into everyday American-English vocabulary.
    Secondly, I wanted to let you know that found this post to be one of the more informative and entertaining posts I have read in a while. Because I was just recently introduced to the world of blogging, I have been searching far and wide for blogs with similar topics. I hope to point out the sources behind negative body image, just as you have done in this post. I started my blog in hope of helping other women like myself to not only love themselves and their body more but to understand WHY they feel the way they do about their body. I completely agree the path to feeling beautiful begins with loving our body; after all, your body is your temple. It makes it our duty as women to come together help each other realize this.
    Thank you for your insightful post, and I look forward to reading more of them!

    • Sandy on October 6, 2010 at 8:05 pm

      You’ve given me a good laugh to start the day, thanks 😀 Bollocks is one of my favourite words, learned from our English cousins.

      And I so appreciate your comment that it’s our duty as women to help one another get over this negative rubbish we’re fed by marketers – a much more pleasant ‘duty’ than needing to be as young and thin and attractive as we can for as much of our lives as we can manage 😀 You’ll find a lot of blogs on the topic, but of course we need so many more because we’re still only little voices in the vast sea of money talking about the thousands of ways we’re not gorgeous enough. I’ve sometimes been disappointed though about the ones that pretend to be about supporting positive body image, and wham, they hit you with their version of losing weight so that you will then love your body! What the? You might enjoy listening to the next series of The Body Image Revolution, which starts on October 21 – amazing women speaking 🙂 I’ll hop over to your blog and take a look, keep on speaking sister 🙂 ~Sandy

      • britt1 on October 7, 2010 at 8:31 pm

        Ok bullocks same as bs.

        • Sandy on October 8, 2010 at 8:43 pm

          Yes, but feels better to say 😀

        • Britt on October 24, 2010 at 10:45 pm

          I will try to use bullocks more in my conversation.

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